Hi All, As Wayne Dyer once said: “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” So how are you participating? What are you doing, for instance, to create a non-escalating environment and/or to de-escalate to bring the environment back to calmness? Are you letting your ego run things so that you continue to need to feel superior to the other person? If so, you’re elevating the need to … Continue reading Conflict & Your Participation
Hi All, Muhammad Ali is now physically gone. He has died. Yes, he was a boxer. He was an impeccable boxer! But is that how he is remembered now? No, he is not remembered as “just” a boxer. He is also not remembered as being “just” a person. No…rather, he is remembered as having been a human being, a man of character, with immense moral … Continue reading Muhammad Ali: A True Human Being
Hi Everyone! Please see this article over at Police.com. It shows an altercation between a man stopped for a traffic stop and a Police Officer. The man ended up shooting the Officer several times, wounding him in the arm. Watch the video. It’s the Officer body camera. Listen to the interaction. I’m less concerned about the tactics involved (though do pay attention to the relatively … Continue reading Bystander rushes to aid shot Ky. Officer
For this post, here, conflict management is a laughing matter. In real life, however, it’s no laughing matter. But here, now, laugh. I’m told laughing is good for the soul. Continue reading Conflict Management: It is (here) a Laughing Matter
Hi All, I invite you to read this post published over at the Vistelar blog. It references a good article over at the nice SOFREP website (news and analysis you can trust from military veterans) about skill acquisition. Acquiring, building, honing, and maintaining skills in conflict management is important to us all. Many times, we think of physical skill development such as martial arts skills, … Continue reading Skill Acquisition in Conflict Management
Please watch the inspirational video below. I’ve watched it many times, particularly when I find myself in wanting a shot of inspiration to work out better, to work out harder. Note, though, that the inspiration is useful for absolutely endeavor in life, whether it be to work out harder, to not give up during hard family times, and even to transform one’s ability to manage … Continue reading How Bad Do You Want It?
Hi Everyone, I remember the days when my wife and I would go to multiple soccer games a week with our son. I remember all the parents rooting for their kids. And I remember the few parents who would occasionally exhibit less-than-desirable behaviors with which the referees would then have to deal. Referees have an amazingly challenging job. Think about it; they must maintain control … Continue reading Managing Conflict for Sports Officials
Please see this good article (link is also at the bottom of this post) over at Leadership Caffeine. It speaks to the need of adaptability in leaders, adaptability indeed being THE crucial leadership skill needed in this century. For those of us who enjoy martial arts and combatives, adaptability is also THE fundamental of all fundamentals. The inimitable Bruce Lee shared with us: Set patterns, incapable … Continue reading Leadership Caffeine—Becoming Agile and Adaptable is THE Leadership Issue
Please see the article, Becoming a Better Public Speaker: Tips from the Greats. As I was reading it, it became apparent just how many common elements are shared between good public speaking and quality conflict minimization/resolution. Note the section about anxiety, and how we may harness it by accepting and working with it, instead of letting it harness us. In Verbal Defense & Influence (VDI), … Continue reading Public Speaking & Conflict Resolution: Common Elements
