How & Why to Be UnTriggerable in Conflict

  Hi All, We’ve all been there.  Someone with whom we’re dealing gives us a look, calls us an asshole, or simply walks away in a disrespectful manner while we’re talking to them. Or some variation of dismissive, insultive, disrespectful behavior.  As a Contact Professional (e.g., Law Enforcement, Security, Parking Enforcement, etc.), it is our duty to maintain our professional behavior despite provocations from others.  … Continue reading How & Why to Be UnTriggerable in Conflict

Creating a Non-Escalatory/Safe Culture is far more than simply using a “Technique”

Hi All, Please see this valuable article about violence in healthcare.  It’s a useful article in that it highlights the growing violence which healthcare professionals must face every day.  Healthcare in the present era is not the healthcare of our parents and grandparents.  Most nurses today experience levels of anxiety and aggression in patients and visitors that simply did not exist years ago to the … Continue reading Creating a Non-Escalatory/Safe Culture is far more than simply using a “Technique”

The Last Word

  Hi All, Please see this brief article targeted at a leadership audience.  As the author of that article makes clear, getting the last word when involved in a verbal retort with someone is an ego-boost.  The ego, in its drive to be correct, wants the last word, and we often find ourselves doing whatever it takes to get it. For Law Enforcement, Public Safety, … Continue reading The Last Word

A Baseline Strategy for all De-Escalation

Hi All, For the Contact Professional, it is vital that s/he gets and maintains rapport with others, all the while remaining physically safe. How do you get a rapport with others, particularly those in crisis? Two things constitute a fundamental baseline and are the very foundation of any non-escalatory and de-escalatory efforts.  With these two things in place, non-escalation and de-escalation efforts will have the … Continue reading A Baseline Strategy for all De-Escalation

Our Responsibility as Global Human Beings

  Hi All, I recommend this article to all contact professionals.  Whether you are a law enforcement officer, mediator, healthcare professional, politician, or trainer in conflict management/resolution/transformation, you will gain much from this interview with the inimitable author, anthropologist, and negotiation expert, William Ury.  Go here for the interview. William speaks in this interview about the power of the mediator, as witness and catalyst, to … Continue reading Our Responsibility as Global Human Beings

Positive Public Safety: 5 Lines Every Public Safety Professional Can Use to Keep the Peace

Hi Everyone! Please see below this very nice video from Gary Klugiewicz at Vistelar.  He describes 5 lines every Public Safety Professional can use to keep the peace. Note the intentional, skillful use of language and respect that he describes, all of which will minimize conflict, and maximize your opportunities to generate in the other person voluntary compliance, cooperation, or collaboration. Vistelar offers the very … Continue reading Positive Public Safety: 5 Lines Every Public Safety Professional Can Use to Keep the Peace

Sufism (The Good Guys): An Antidote to ISIS?

Hi All, In Verbal Defense & Influence (VDI), we speak about the importance of the social contract of a group of people, whether this group is a family, an organization, or even a nation.  When I study social contracts, what becomes evident is that, in nations, social contracts are overturned, sometimes by necessity, to save lives and to improve the quality of everyone’s life. ISIS is … Continue reading Sufism (The Good Guys): An Antidote to ISIS?

Chief Harry P. Dolan – An Amazing Experience

Hi Everyone, I recently had the privilege of participating in a whole day of training with Retired Police Chief of Raleigh, NC, Harry P. Dolan.  What an amazing experience it was! His subject matter expertise spans the full gamut of verbal de-escalation strategies.  He covers everything having to do with creating the very best public servants. He does an amazing job at conveying the roots (Aristotle’s … Continue reading Chief Harry P. Dolan – An Amazing Experience